If you possess self-confidence, that’s a wonderful trait. People that are self-confident face their fears head-on and tend to be risk takers. They have the ability to get past the obstacles, no matter what comes on their way. Even when things aren’t going so well, self-confident people tend to see their lives in a positive light, and they are typically satisfied with and respect themselves. Wouldn’t it be amazing to have this kind of self-confidence, every single day of the week? Guess what? You can.
Self-confidence is your ally when you want to smile at the guy at the bar, present yourself incandescent for a job interview or to oppose your boss, without losing your job.
Each of us can increase self-esteem, and here’s how:
1. Discover your good qualities and abilities
Self-confidence needs to be stimulated and amplified repeatedly. To do this, you need to know your abilities and qualities. This can be achieved with a little exercise. Write your 20 qualities and abilities that you posses (intellectual, emotional, physical) on a paper. Then, to each one, write what helped you to achieve it. Example: I am very chatty, which helps me always to fit easily into the conversation and meet a lot of new people.
2. Make sure that you can learn and do everything
Self-confidence doesn’t mean that you will succeed at everything and to know what to do in each situation. It means to think that you are able to learn and do something that fulfill your needs. Your motto should be: “If you do not know how to do it, you can learn it”. When there will be a new task for you, if you don’t know how to handle – do not give up. Do not accept it as a defeat, instead of, search a solution for it. Be confident that you can learn.
3. Avoid the life on template
Very often we create our small rituals such as cleaning Sunday or going out on a Saturday evening. These habits are entirely normal and certainly it’s convenient to have. But when there is a new opportunity that may disrupt this pattern, it is possible that you do not feel comfortable with accepting the opportunity. Ask yourself what you want and be open to new things. If someone offers you a job in a new town, don’t be afraid to accept it.
4. Highlight yourself
Subconsciously, often we try to be part of the crowd, because we are afraid of the judge by them or afraid that they will avoid us. Distance yourself from what others think. Express your individuality. Will it be through clothes, music that you listen or your opinion – doesn’t matter. Don’t be part of the crowd, be different and special.
5. Express your opinion
If you always agree with the opinions of others, even when you’re on a completely different view, it means that you are afraid that you wouldn’t be liked from other people if you stand on the opposite side. When a colleague of yours gives a nice idea that is accepted by all, and you think there are many disadvantages, do not be afraid to tell your attitude. Once you stand on the opposite side, you’ll notice that people will appreciate you more, because you stand behind your beliefs.